I think it’s weird that most conversations entail the question, “ARE YOU GAY?” it’s such a rude and absurd question. If you’re not trying to get with me, then I see no reason why you should ask me that ….PERIOD!
Many people need to understand that gender and sexual orientation are two different things. Yes, the determination of your sexual orientation is dependent on your gender, but it’s just sex. Why is who I’m attracted to so important to you? When did it become okay to ask strangers, “Who are you having sex with?”
I think the main question we should be asking ourselves right now is “HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY?” In my dictionary, there is only male, female and non-binary. Do not think I’m not leaving out my TRANS brothers and sisters because I believe they also fall into one of the categories; their either transitioning to male or female. The only reason we should even ask the question of identity is to find out what makes the person comfortable.
So it’s not okay to ask me if I’m a lesbian because you’re simply asking me who I’m having sex with or who I’m sexually attracted to, and if we don’t have some form of relationship (family, friend) and you’re not trying to sleep with me, then I don’t understand how that is any of your concern. I think the whole idea of coming out might no longer be needed because heterosexuals don’t have to tell their family “Mom Dad, I’m straight”, your sex life should be between you and your partner. I’d like to give humanity some credit; believing that we’ve moved beyond being surprised or hateful in cases of homosexuality.
It’s important for people to speak out about how they identify and what they want to be addressed as, so as to get the treatment they deserve. I saw a video of a guy ranting about Dwayne Wade’s daughter; Zaya and I got so confused. Zaya simply identifies as female and has made no statement about her sexual orientation, so why is this ranting man talking about “not cutting off her d***”? On the other hand, interviewers also need to stop asking celebrities about their sex life because quite frankly, it’s none of our concern and we need to take the pressure off celebrities who think it’s necessary to share such information.
As an individual, who’s led by the Holy Spirit, I love everyone regardless of their identity and sexual orientation; I also understand what it feels like to have desires that seem unusual to society, thankfully they’re being checked by the Holy Spirit. Having had those desires, all I can say is if the Holy Spirit has my back, He definitely has yours.
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